Let’s say you’re on a date with a woman and it’s going well. You both are engaging in conversation, you had a nice dinner together, and then you both make it back to your car. You plan to take her home but you want to escalate and close with sex that night. But you don’t know how to physically escalate. Although things went well during the date, there wasn’t much kino. So how do you escalate in the first place? You don’t wanna be that guy that keeps asking if it’s okay to touch here, there, etc. You’ll come off beta as fuck, annoying, and she will lose interest. But how do you read whether or not she’s down?

Coming from a place where you don’t know if she’s even up for sex, let alone you touching her, you need to try lightly touching her. This way you’ll know if she’s interested in getting more physical with you. Vibe with her in the car. You could compare hand sizes, giving you a not awkward way to hold her hand. . When you escalate with her, you’re trying to make her more comfortable with you, have fun, and build off of that energy to create sexual energy. While you’re vibing, you could play with her hair, make eye contact with her, and build up to putting your arm around her, rubbing her thigh, or pulling her into you by her waist if she’s responding really well. Make out with her, smell her, and tease her once you know it’s clear that she’s down to be physically sexual with you. However, you shouldn’t be doing a lot of big kino in the car unless you plan on having sex with her in your car. If you plan on taking her home with you, turn her on by making out with her, teasing her, and whispering to her. You can turn her on even more and have sex when you get back to your place. Obviously don’t keep persisting if she says no or doesn’t want to continue.You want to leave her better than before you went on the date with her. Assuming that the date went well and she’s pretty interested in you, it should not be that difficult. You can tell from her body language: she’ll lean into you, keep making eyes at you, reciprocate each kino, and progressively get more physical with you. Even subtle tells like her expressions and her eyes are important to be aware of because she’s sub communicating whether or not she’s interested.

A lot of guys’ common sticking point is that they get nervous trying to escalate. This is because they fear getting rejected and they’re not good at reading whether girls are interested in becoming physical with them. The thing is, you won’t know unless you try something. Too many guys overthink the situation and end up not escalating because they’re scared. So when you escalate, you build up the tension and you don’t go straight for kissing her. Building up that sexual tension makes it clear to her that you are interested in having sex. This is all physical interaction, though. Help build up to sex through engaging conversation, witty remarks, and sexual verbal escalation, too. When you physically escalate with her, you could de-escalate by talking to her, or in other words, pulling and pushing with her. And if you escalate verbally, you could de-escalate physically and not touch her, creating that tension. Whisper to her to go back to your place at the peak of sexual tension. The last thing that you’d want to happen is for you to do a big kino like going for a kiss when you get into the car and then have her push you away and lose interest in you because you didn’t know how to read the situation. It’s called escalating for a reason. You’re not supposed to go straight for big kino. You’re supposed to build up that sexual tension, have fun and engage with her, then further escalate depending on the energy you both created.